If you believe the propaganda spewed out in television ads, we learn we are not enough. Ads for weight loss, for female hair loss, female sexual disfunction, ads telling us what we need to be a better person and on it goes…
Women take back your power!
Ladies, take back your power right now! “How do we do that?” you ask. First of all, stop watching ads on television! These advertisements try to make you think that the minority is the majority. In other words, the problems being targeted is for a small portion of the population. However, pharmaceutical companies want us to believe that women having discomfort while making love is the normal course of progression. It’s not!
First and foremost, love yourself! “How do I love myself?” you ask.
Stand in front of a mirror naked. Yes, I know that sounds horrifying! But, until you learn to make peace with your body, you journey to self respect will be a long and difficult one. Standing in front of the mirror naked is intimidating to most women. We see everything that we think is wrong with our body.
However, change your perspective and appreciate the things your body does for you. Feet and legs carry you through the day so you can accomplish the task that need to be done. Hips make it possible for you to swivel and sway. You know, that sexy walk, the one where heads turn. Next, your torso and back keep you erect. Arms embrace your loved ones to comfort. Be thankful for your breast! They nourished your children after birth in many cases. Look at your face, be grateful for the lips that speak your truth. See the light shinning from your eyes. Most of all, instead of looking at yourself from a critical point of view, learn to show yourself compassion!
However, society teaches young girls that if their body is not like that of a model, they are inadequate. In addition, girls are made to feel ashamed of their bodies. Similarly, we are disconnected from our body. Women have no idea how to connect to their body image. See the goddess you truly are!
Reasons to love your body
Venus, Aphrodite, Athena are depicted as full figured women. Statues of these goddesses show women with amble buttocks, breast and stomachs.
Somewhere along the way, the definition of a beautiful woman changed. For example, instead of seeing the beauty of a real woman’s body, full and round, images became distorted. Thin, boyish bodies are seen on the fashion runways. Barbie dolls are the image of what women are supposed to look like. How insane is that?! Women’s bodies are to look like a doll with unrealistic shapes! Really? Give me a break!
Throw out these ridiculous standards of what a woman should look like! Above all, be realistic and show compassion to yourself.
- Embrace the uniqueness of your shape. If all women were shaped the same, no one would stand out.
- Stop looking at the scales! Nourish your body with healthy food, enjoy the act of eating a meal!
- Looks change throughout our life time. See your beauty at each stage of life!
- Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Look at yourself from a loving perspective. Beauty starts in your eyes!
However, one’s perception of your shape is the difference of what you see and what you think you should see.
Sexuality as a Mature Woman
After women pass through menopause, they may find that the hormonal changes have had an unexpected affect on the body. Women who enjoy having sex don’t lose interest or the desire for sex. But, there are changes that might need attention.
Don’t pay attention to the television ads from the pharmaceutical companies! If you believe the propaganda, then one thinks they need a pill for the changes brought on by aging. The propaganda makes us think that these changes are the norm for the majority of women. Rubbish!!!
Body changes
Having said this, let’s take a minute to look at the changes that the female body takes on.
- Hormones decrease. The vaginal wall becomes thinner and drier. This can make intercourse uncomfortable or in extreme cases painful. The vaginal cannel shortens and narrows. This can cause pain when you have sex. Lubed condoms, water-based lubricating jelly, and vaginal moisturizers most often is the remedy. Your doctor might also prescribe vaginal estrogen, which comes as a cream, a pill or tablet, or an insert.
- Diabetes contributes to changes in comfort. Women with this condition can experience less feeling in their genitals. Diabetes also causes more vaginal yeast infections, which can irritate the vagina and make it difficult or unpleasant to have sex. But this is easily treated.
- Heart disease. Women with heart disease worry about having a heart attack during sex. This rarely happens. You might find it hard to get aroused or have orgasms since the blood flow may be restricted. Your doctor will manage your heart condition. In doing so, ones ability to enjoy sex is improved.
- Other changes affecting your sex life can include: weight gain, arthritis, chronic pain, bladder control problems, dementia, high blood pressure or cholesterol, side effects from meds, depression, and stroke. Surgery, especially in sexual areas can affect your self-image and how you feel. Talk with your partner about ways you can stay close. Put aside caregiving roles when you can to focus on being a partner
- Talk with your doctor about sexual problems. The doctor isn’t likely to bring up the topic, they are usually uncomfortable with talking about sex with patients.
Making an attitude adjustment
Woman, get out of your head! Stop thinking about how you look naked! In other words, love your body as it is. For instance, recognize the beauty of your curves, appreciate the uniqueness of this magnificent feminine image. Touch this wonderful sensual womanhood that is you. Through touch one begins to know what makes them feel desire.
In addition, to touching the body and learning what pleasures you, know that through touch, you can help your partner to better stimulate you. Talk with your partner! Our partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t have a crystal ball to give them the answers for better sex.
However, until there is open and honest conversation about sex, nothing will change. Speak up and tell your partner what sensations arouse you. Similarly, stay in the present moment. Stay out of your head.
Be Present
Stay in the moment. For instance, don’t be thinking about how you look while having sex. In addition, don’t be thinking that one has to rush to organism. Drop the expectations and goals burned into the mind.
Sexual desire starts in the mind not in the genitals. Yes, it’s true! Let go of control issues. Surrender to release. In other words, enjoy the sensations being felt in the moment. Above all, know that by being in the moment, you are one with the experience.
Communicate with your partner what he can do to help you relax further. However, by letting him know which touch feels more stimulating to you, he is being brought into the moment as well. He’s not responsible for your organism! Don’t put that burden on him! Therefore, as you communicate your needs, the pressure is removed from him. Move his hands where you want them to be. In other words, show him what turns you on! Be present and active in love making.
Owning who you are
Take charge of your body! By doing so, pleasure is increased. Men are attracted to a confident woman. In doing so, you are releasing the goddess within you. Unleash, this sensual woman! Stand firm in what you desire. Lead your partner to a more relaxed and connected encounter.
Above all, know that as you accept the beautiful woman you are, the stronger your self-esteem will be. Embrace the freedom that is gained by letting go of misconceiving ideas of society. Be strong in the love you have for yourself! It’s healthy!
Women have beautiful bodies! Each woman is unique! Love yourself first! In doing so, you are able to love others.
Summary
In conclusion, give yourself permission to leave behind preconceived ideas handed down for centuries. Love who you are and how you look. Women are powerful! Be grateful for the inner strength and embrace the wonderful creation you are! Therefore, the power for change is within you! Love the sensual, sexy woman you are! Your partner will appreciate it!
I am a strong, loving mature woman! Above all, I embrace the Divine Feminine within me. Further more, I love who I am. The journey wasn’t an easy one, but it was worth every struggle. Similarly, I know you have the strength to take this path to healthy self-love as well.
Remember, you are a beautiful, sexy woman! I’m told by a reliable source, men are just happy to be able to look at the beauty of a woman’s naked body.
Having said all this, men have their issues about body image as well. Part three is a discussion on men’s insecurities.
