Sex is a taboo subject in the Western world. Sex is for the younger generation, not the mature person. Older people don’t have sex! Once you reach a certain age, your sex life is over.
Really?! We, as a society have to get over beliefs that no longer serve us. I’m not going to address society’s misconceptions and morals centering around sex. However, I am discussing the reality of the sex life as an older person.
Myths about older people and sex
- When you get older, you stop having sex
- Older men aren’t able to get an erection
- Older persons don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases (STD)
- The mature woman doesn’t want sex, it hurts
- Mature bodies aren’t sexy
- Older men and women don’t have casual sex
- Sex can be dangerous for an older person
- It’s your respnsibility to make sure your partener has an organism
Really?
Where is it written as you age, you stop having sex? Studies show that mature adults in advanced years are having sex at least once a week. Not only are they still having sex, it’s reported that the sexual experience is more satisifying in advanced years. A person’s sexuality is always there. It’s a part of who you are. The desire doesn’t disappear just because you are older.
A study of men over the age of 70 shows that erectile dysfunction is not a problem for 75% of men. The erection may not be as firm and a little more foreplay may be needed, but they are able to enjoy the act of sex immensely.
Pregancy may not be a concern for the mature person, but STD is. Rates are doubling for STI’s in people who are in their 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s. Over the last decade infections such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are on the rise. So, yes mature people have casual sex.
As women go through menopause, their sexual desire may diminish slightly. But overall the sexual desire is there.
As we age, gravity takes over. Skin may sag and there may be a few extra pounds added to the body, but who doesn’t have body issues at any age?
Give me a break about sex being dangerous for the older generation! Yes, body parts may be needing replacement, such as knees and hips, but one can adapt to different positions during sex.
And lastly, it’s never been your responsibility to make sure your partner has an organism. It’s not about performance! Never has been.
Changing your attitude!
Society needs an attitude adjustment about sexuality in general. It’s time for an overhaul in the way society looks at sex in any age group.
Having said this, part two will cover women’s issues. We will explore the goddess within. Women have to reclaim their power as a woman!
Part three will take a look at men’s concerns and how men can over come these concerns.
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