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August 4, 2024

Women And Sex After 50 by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

My great aunt who was 90 liked to tell a story about her husband and his hearing problems. She asked her husband one night if he wanted steak for dinner. He responded with, “I’m not sure if I want sex tonight.”

Women often think as they get older, that they don’t need to have sex or are told that older women don’t need sex. Why would you deprive yourself of a natural desire?

First and for most: Age does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Older people who are sexually active are at risk for syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydial infection, genital herpes, hepatitis B, genital warts, and trichomoniasis.

People who are sexually active, no matter their age, may also be at risk of being infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. In fact, the number of older people with HIV/AIDS is growing. You are at risk for HIV/AIDS if you or your partner has more than one sexual partner, if you are having unprotected sex, or if either you or your partner is sharing needles.

Having said this, let’s talk about sex within a stable relationship. Intimacy is important to everyone. Humans need touch, the desire to be connected, we want to feel close to another person. 

Aging creates new opportunities for us to redefine what sexuality and intimacy means to us. Sexuality is often affected by one’s emotional and physical state. How you physically feel may affect what you are able to do and how you emotionally feel may affect what you want to do. You may find that you enjoy sex more because there are fewer distractions, more time and privacy. Pregnancy certainly is not a concern. 

Physical Changes

We experience physical changes such as body shape, may experience weight gain, muscle tone can decrease, and our skin is not as taught as it was when we were younger. Get over it! Your partner is not judging you. He’s undergone the same changes! Men are just happy to look at a naked woman. 

Two common changes that older adults experience are related to the sex organs. The vagina can shorten and narrow, and the vaginal walls can become thinner and stiffer. For most, there will be less vaginal lubrication, and it may take more time for the vagina to naturally lubricate itself. These changes could make certain types of sexual activity, such as vaginal penetration, painful or less desirable.

With age, impotence (also called erectile dysfunction, or ED) also becomes more common. ED is the loss of ability to have and keep an erection, and the erection may not be as firm or as large as it used to be. ED is not a problem if it happens every now and then, but if it occurs often, talk with your doctor. 

Other challenges that can affect our sexual life include; menopause, joint replacements, chronic pain, medications, dementia, drinking too much alcohol, incontinence, and depression to name a few.

Talk openly with your partner about any challenges you are having during sex. Honesty will help you overcome these trials.

Regular Sex But Not Necessarily Intercourse

  • Older adults who have sex at least twice a month report greater happiness than those who abstain from partner sex, according to a study.
  • Women in the study did not consider intercourse to be a major contributor to sexual satisfaction. Men missed intercourse more than women.
  • Intercourse is often not as central to sex for older adults, but sex remains important late in life. There are many other ways to enjoy sex.

Women’s main pleasure organ is not the vagina, but the clitoris, which sits outside the vagina, an inch or two above it beneath the top junction of the vaginal lips.

Couples masturbation can be satisfying for couples who have chronic pain and joint problems such as knee/hip replacements.

Solo? What Can You Do?

Buy toys! Masturbation using toys can help. Remember that having an organism is essential for optimal health. 

Solo sex is usually rated as being less satisfying than sex with a partner. However, there are many reasons why masturbation may be beneficial:

  • understanding your own body
  • boosted self-esteem and body image
  • increased sexual satisfaction
  • treatment for sexual dysfunction

Around 20 percent of Americans, especially older adults experience aches, pains, and disabilities that make partner sex difficult and sometimes impossible. For them, self-sexing alone or in each other’s company is not “second best.” It’s their best way to remain sexual under difficult and often challenging circumstances.

Remember that sex isn’t just having intercourse. Sex embraces the intimacy of touch, caressing, “pillow talk” and physical contact of another person.

Why Is Sex So Important?

Remember those “feel good” hormones that are released during sex? Nature didn’t intend for women to be sexually active after menopause. That’s a commonly said and stupid statement. Eve lived to be over 800 years old and she had children well up into the high 100s of years.

Women have to work at it and be creative. Another stupid statement. To do so, women need to explore the emotional, physical, and medical factors that may sabotage sexual response and take advantage of a wide variety of therapies to address them. 

The brain is a woman’s most important sex organ, we can’t deny the role our bodies play, especially as we get older. Satisfying sex depends on several things: presence of desire, arousal, absence of pain, and an ability to reach orgasm.

We are told, after menopause libido declines and changes in our bodies can make it difficult to get aroused. It’s painful to have intercourse and impossible to climax. It’s little wonder that many women become dissatisfied with sex, and some avoid intimacy entirely.

That doesn’t mean there aren’t other solutions for women. Finding them entails exploring the reasons you might have lost interest in sex and designing a plan to address them. Among the most common contributors to lost libido are:

Declining hormone levels. In women, both estrogen and testosterone can contribute to libido. Estrogen is made by the ovaries and in body tissues; testosterone, by the ovaries and adrenal glands. While estrogen levels drop sharply during menopause, testosterone levels decline slowly and steadily with age. 

Depression. Becoming increasingly common at midlife, depression notoriously dampens desire. Taking a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor like fluoxetine (Prozac) or paroxetine (Paxil) can be effective for depression. However, it can also reduce your sexual response. Switching to bupropion (Wellbutrin) helps some women, although it may not completely restore lost libido.

Medication. Drugs for high blood pressure can also affect desire. Since there are many options available, your physician can help you find one that keeps your blood pressure down without lowering your libido.

Physical illness. Undergoing treatment for cancer or another serious illness can diminish interest in sex.

Stress and anxiety. Job pressures, family responsibilities, lack of privacy, and worries about children or aging parents can render sex a low priority.

Relationship strains. If you feel yourself growing away or disconnected from your partner, you aren’t as likely to be interested in sex with him or her.

Let’s put some of these erroneous statements to bed! (Pun intended!)

Sex has many physical and mental health benefits. Some of them are: 

  1. Reduces stress 
  2. Improves sleep
  3. Boosts the immune system 
  4. Lowers the risk of heart disease
  5. Strengthens the pelvic floor muscles 
  6. Increases intimacy and closeness
  7. Increases self-esteem
  8. Relieves headache
  9. Improves bladder control and reduces incontinence 
  10. Helps produce more vaginal lubrication
  11. Increased satisfaction with your mental health
  12. Increased levels of trust, intimacy, and love in your relationships
  13. Improved ability to perceive, identify, and express emotions

Proof Of Longevity 

You’ve heard of the Blue Zones around the world where people live to be 100 and beyond. 

These zones are located: 

  • Okinawa, Japan
  • Sardinia, Italy
  • Nicoya, Costa Rica
  • Icaria, Greece
  • Loma Linda, California, United States

A blue zone is an area where people tend to out live most of the world’s populations. The lifestyles in these areas contribute to their longevity. 

Blue Zones are areas of the world in which people live exceptionally long lives. Studies have found that genetics only play a 20–30% role in longevity. 

People in Blue Zones typically eat a 95% plant-based diet that’s rich in legumes, whole grains, vegetables and nuts, all of which can help reduce the risk of death. Caloric restriction and refraining from eating at night are common in Blue Zones. Both these practices can significantly reduce risk factors for certain diseases and prolong healthy life. 

Moderate physical exercise that is built into daily life, such as walking and climbing stairs, may help prolong life. 

People in Blue Zones get sufficient sleep. Seven hours of sleep at night and naps of no more than 30 minutes during the day may help reduce the risk of heart disease and death.

Other common characteristics include:

  • Having a lifestyle with little stress
  • Having a spiritual practice
  • Living in harmony with nature
  • Living in communities with people from all ages
  • Having a good support system within families and communities 

Factors other than diet and exercise play an important role in longevity. Religion, life purpose, family and social networks can also influence how long you live.

Tips to a Healthy and Long Life

  1. Remember, what you think is what you become! Think “I’m sick” and you will be sick. Think I’m healthy and you will be healthy.
  2. Pay attention to your self talk. Be kind to yourself and show yourself compassion when you make a mistake. Give yourself at least 10 positive confirmations a day.
  3. Stay involved and keep learning. By using the brain to learn new things, we are strengthen the brain pathways.
  4. Eat a clean diet. Eliminate processed and high glucose foods. Don’t overeat and practice intermit fasting. 
  5. Keep moving! Movement is exercise and it keeps the body strong and toned.
  6. Have sex and enjoy your body just as it is.

Conclusion

For centuries women have been told that sex is “necessary” and when you get older, you don’t have to do it anymore. Not true! Why would you not want to have sex? It’s fun, it keeps you healthy and it promotes intimacy between you and your partner!

I’m amazed that women during this time and age still fall for that nonsense.

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January 19, 2024

How to Reduce Those Nasty Oxalates by Janet Lynas, Ph.D.,N.H.D.

It’s always something isn’t it? New information comes out daily on food. We are told about all the harmful chemicals in foods and the list seems to continue to grow. Lectins and now the focus is on oxalates. In reality none of this information is new. When I was a mire child in nursing school, I learned about lectins, oxalates, arsenic, cyanide, sugar, fats and many other scary chemicals found in food.

If we eliminated all the foods that contain these chemicals there would be nothing left to eat.

Plants Defense Systems

Plants evolve over the centuries to develop defense systems. The chemicals that are developed are to keep insects and animals from eating them. Plants don’t want to be eaten. Not by insects, animals, or humans. I’m not getting into the science on plant cells and how plants develop. What I want to zero in is some of the chemicals plants develop to protect themselves and how to get around them.

The defense chemicals that plants use include tannins, saponins, isothiocyantes, lectins, oxalates, and cyanogenic glycosides that will damage your gut. These chemicals also inhibit nutrient absorption, interfere with your hormones, and make you have stinky farts!

Most of the time we are able to dispose of the toxins without any problems. At times, some people can have problems with certain plants. Oxalates can affect the kidneys and contribute to kidney stones. Oxalates are like tiny chards of glass going through the body’s organs. Sounds serious doesn’t it. In some cases it can be. Generally speaking, most of us are able to flush out these chemicals without much of a problem.

Foods High in Oxalates

Some of our most favorite foods are high in oxalates. French fries being one. Below is a list of foods high in oxalates, keep in mind however, many of these plants contain important nutrients that we need to stay healthy.

  1. Spinach – A half-cup of cooked spinach contains 755 milligrams.
  2. Soy products – A 3-ounce serving of firm tofu has 235 milligrams, while 1 cup of soy milk or yogurt can have up to 336 milligrams per serving. I tend to stay away from all soy products because of the estrogen hormones and the fact that soy beans have been adulterated by Monsanto to the point that it’s not safe.
  3. Almonds – One ounce of almonds, or about 22 nuts, contains 122 milligrams of oxalates. Most of the oxalates are found in the skin of the almond.
  4. Potatoes – A medium baked potato has 97 milligrams of oxalates per serving. Most of this content is in the potato’s skin.
  5. Beets – At 152 milligrams per cup, they’re also one of the vegetables highest in oxalates. 
  6. Navy beans – navy beans are on the high end with 76 milligrams per half-cup.
  7. Rasberries – raspberries are considered a high-oxalate food with 48 milligrams per cup.
  8. Dates – Dates are high in sugar and concentrated with oxalates with one date containing 24 milligrams. Dates should be eaten in moderation if for no other reason than the sugar content.

Foods Low in Oxalates

Fruits: bananas, blackberries, blueberries, cherries, strawberries, apples, apricots, lemons, peaches.

Vegetables: mustard greens, broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower, mushrooms, onions, peas, zucchini.

Grains and starches: white rice, corn flour, oat bran. Proteins: eggs, meat, fish, poultry.

Problems with High Oxalates

For people who are prone to kidney stones the above foods should be restricted or avoided all together.  When oxalate levels are high, there’s a greater chance it will bind to calcium, forming kidney stones.

Because oxalates bind to minerals they lower mineral absorption in our bodies. This includes all minerals such as copper, zinc, and calcium to name a few of these essential nutrients.

Individuals who have gut problems tend to have more difficulty in breaking down oxalates. Antibiotics decrease the good bacteria in the gut and with higher levels of oxalates, it can become a bigger problem.

So, What do we do?

Limit high level oxalate foods, like the ones listed above. See the fruits that are high in oxalates also. Eat more fruits and vegetables on the low end of the scale. Drink water to flush out the oxalates. Boiling vegetables can reduce the level of oxalates by 87% in some foods.

As with any other food, eat in moderation. It’s essential that we eat a large variety of foods to maintain optimal health.

Don’t get caught up in the YouTubers trying to draw more people to their channels. As always, do your own research.

October 6, 2023

I Don’t Remember by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Dementia is as feared as cancer. The general consensus is that dementia is an old-age process and it terrifies people. However, working in the mental heath outpatient department at the Fayetteville, Arkansas VA, we were seeing early onset dementia. Most of this early onset dementia was seen in veterans who used marijuana on a regular bases.

What are other causes of dementia?

Many commonly prescribed medications can cause dementia. The commonly known memory interfering and dangerous medications are those with anticholinergic properties. Medications that block the effect of acetylcholine. Acetyclcholine is an important brain chemical and neurotransmitter that becomes less plentiful in the aging brain. Acetylcholine is essential for brain health and function.

These medications have an impact on brain cells. By blocking the receptor molecules in the brain these medications can help people experience relief from symptoms such as insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome, and many other medical conditions. Among the clinically significant anticholinergic medications are medications such as tolterodine, which is often used to treat urinary incontinence. In addition, some antidepressants like the tricyclics such as amitriptyline, antipsychotics, cardiac medications, antispasmodics, antivertigo medications, and antiparkinsonian medications have anticholinergic effects.

Anxiety and Insomnia Medications

Benzodiazepines are a class of medications that are used to treat anxiety or insomnia. These medications are another group that has been linked with cognitive difficulties. While these medications can give significant relief to individuals suffering from debilitating anxiety, their use has a sedation and mental slowing side-effect are concerning. A recent study has suggested that prolonged use of benzodiazepines might be a risk factor for dementia. Primary care doctors continue to prescribe anti-anxiety medications such as lorazepam (Ativan) and alprazolam (Xanax) or sleeping pills such as temazepam (Restoril) and consider them very beneficial when used properly. The psychiatrist I have worked with do not prescribe benzodiazepines because of the serious side-effects.

Corticosteroids

Corticosteroids can be life-saving for people having sever allergic reactions when prescribed accordingly. However, they have the capacity to induce delirium, mood changes, or even psychotic symptoms. Prednisone has been identified in cases of clinical symptoms that mimic different mental disorders including cognitive changes. I was given Prednisone once and I literally felt homicidal. I had only taken three of the pills when this symptom onset. I warned my teenagers to stay away from me until the pills wore off. Teenagers tend to push a parents buttons on a good day.

Pain Medications

Pain medications, especially opioids, can be life changing when used properly. Their disastrous effects on short-term memory have been studied and recognized. Pain relief is necessary for an individual to be able to function. The proper use of pain relievers is important so people can function. However, negative cognitive effects are reversible after the medications are stopped. Opioids were never intended for long-term use. Doctors started using them in this off-label prescribed treatment which has caused the devastating problem we now see. Opioids were one of the biggest problems I had to deal with as a nurse trying to educate my patients. It’s the most abused category of drugs.

Chemotherapy Drugs

Cognitive changes associated with anticancer chemotherapeutic agents is well-documented. “Chemo brain” is now a commonly known term that describes the affects chemotherapy has on patients. The side-effects include being unable to focus or lack of attention, working memory, and executive function. Unfortunately these side-effects sometimes leaves lasting changes.

Statins

The cholesterol-lowering statins have been suspected of creating mental slowing and memory problems in some people for a while now. The research in this area is divided in opinion. Smaller case studies have reported people are experiencing the medications interfering with cognition. Other larger and well-designed studies have not confirmed this effect. So, the jury is still out on whether this is a side-effect or not.

Recently, more doctors are acknowledging that the true benefits of this classification of drugs is in question. Newer studies are showing that the Statins are not very effective, especially considering the severity of the side-effects.

The Impact of Aging

We need to be aware that the effects of aging with drug action and metabolism are of the upmost importance. The liver and kidneys are less efficient in detoxing drug effects as we age. The aging brain has less protective cognitive resources. More importantly, the practice of multiple prescribed medications for older adults offer many opportunities for drug interactions. All medications have adverse reactions. The harmful effects of medications are exacerbated when the medications are not taken as prescribed. Then when alcohol is thrown into the mix it’s a disaster happening. Even a small amount of alcohol use can add serious adverse side-effects of medications.

So, the fact that your can’t remember, might not be dementia. There are safer drugs and alternative therapies that are effective.

Don’t forget about over the counter drugs!

Common medications such as Benadryl which is commonly used not only for allergies, but as a sleep aid can affect your memory.

Never stop or change any medication regimen without talking with your doctor first. Never add over the counter drugs without talking with your pharmacist first.

March 25, 2023

How Do You Reinforce Positive Self-Talk by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I speak about self-talk often. How we talk to ourselves is so important. However, today I want to talk with you about how to anchor the positive self discussion into your subconscious mind.

By now, you should have learned that the words, I AM, are the most powerful words that can be spoken. No other words are more powerful. Furthermore, the narrative one should be having with self should be positive affirmations. If you need a review, scroll back through previous articles I have written.

Anchors Away!

Congratulations! Your conversation with self is upbeat and positive. Now what? How do we keep up the momentum?

Each night as you are going to sleep, give thanks for the opportunities you had that day. Remember, it doesn’t matter how small the opportunity is. It’s the little things that add up. You remembered where you put your keys as you were rushing out the door and didn’t have to spend time looking for them. It didn’t rain or maybe it did because rain is needed. A child was in need of help and you were there to help them. See where I’m going with this?

Express joyfulness. What happened today that made you feel joy? Did you live in the moment? Did you step out of the “ruminating” and disconnect from the one thought loop that we all get stuck in at times. For many of us, just waking up in the morning feeling rested is a big step. Notice what’s around you. Really look at your surroundings and experience the joy from being out in nature. Don’t just look around, see what’s around you.

Show gratitude for people and events that happened today. Give gratitude for the difficult moments in your life today. While we all want to have an easy path, it’s the difficult times that helps us grow. No one likes to have challenges, but these moments teach us about how strong we are.

As you start to drift off into slumber, repeat your positive affirmations to yourself. Repeating your positive self-talk durning this state of drifting off, is the perfect time to hook your new attitude into the subconscious. The conscious mind is easy to slip around during this stage. Once you get past the “gatekeeper” and move the conscious mind to the side, it’s so much easier to ground the positive thoughts.

Repeat

In the morning as you’re waking up, when you are still in the dreamy stage, start the day by giving thanks for the opportunities that will come your way. Before you know it, the subconscious has anchored in the new thought process.

Repetition is the key to changing your life.

What am I grateful for today? I’m grateful that I’m able to help people. It brings me joy to see people come into the center not feeling well, but by the time they leave, they are feeling so much better.

Gratitude ~ Message from Our Board President - Unitarian Universalist ...
October 13, 2022

What Are You Thinking? by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I talk about paying attention to what you think about. However, I will focus on how your thoughts not only affect you, but the effect they have on the world.

How do my thoughts affect anyone else?  Much less the whole world?

We’re interconnected

Science proved we are all connected on an energetic level. This section of science is fascinating. Remember my article on the experiment with hundreds of people meditating at the same time on peace? In that experiment it is proven that thoughts do affect the outcome in communities.

Einstein’s theory of general relativity looks at the cosmic scales and the relationship between gravity, time and space. It predicts continuum to an infinitive point of singularity.

The God Gene is found in each of us. Photos of the God Gene are specular.

The Law of One states, “The first known thing in the creation is infinity. Infinity is a creation.”

Try a simple experiment to see how you thoughts affect someone else. I want you to look at someone who’s not aware that you are there. Now, I want you to think about what you are seeing them do at that moment. Watch and see how long it takes them to turn around and look in your direction. You’ve had that happen to you. You felt someone looking at you and you turned around to see who is looking at you.

Take it a step further

Keep in mind what you already know about the meditation experiment and the experience of feeling someone looking at you.

Therefore, how do we apply what we already know about being interconnected? Furthermore, why should you care?

Because of what we’re being fed by mainstream news media about a nuclear event on the verge of happening, people are fearful. Fear is what the news media focuses on because it attracts more viewers.

Another key point is that fear keeps us bound. As a matter of fact, we are easily manipulated once fear takes over. Thinking is foggy and making a decision becomes more difficult.

So what do we do?

Take control of your emotions. Don’t believe everything you hear on the mainstream news media. In addition, do your own research. We are highly intelligent and by using our own critical thinking one will know the truth in any situation.

Go back to the basics. Pay attention to your thoughts. If everyone is living in fear of what might happen, then the fear is what the collective will project. Also, once we change our thoughts, situations in the world will change. Remember the meditation experiment, crime when down drastically during that two week period.

Change your focus. Basically, if you want to change the world, then you start with changing your perspective. We have no control over “what ifs” or “what might happen”. Stay in the present moment. The present moment is all we have. The Past is just that, past. The Future isn’t here.

Form your own support group of like minded people. As it is noted, when two or more come together in agreement on a topic, change happens.

Summary

Certainly, the above advise may seem “simple minded”, but it is in the simplest of thoughts and moments that change is made.

Instead of worrying about the escalating inflation and all the issues that go with it, focus on what you can do. You can consolidate your errands to one trip. Make a plan on what you can do.

Most of all, join with others to focus on changing the outcome of what is going on in the world around us. As we hold each other up in support, the energy begins to change.

After all, as the light becomes brighter, the darkness recedes into nothingness.

So, What Are You Thinking?

June 30, 2022

Listen to Yourself! by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I haven’t written an article on hypnosis in a long time. As I’ve shared with you, I’ve been traveling for the last seven months for Tesla BioHealing. I actually did hypnosis sessions while I was on the road. It seems as though people find me wherever I am. The right people, the right time and the right reason to do hypnosis.

About two weeks before I moved back to my hometown, I started getting request for hypnosis sessions. I find this really interesting since I closed my office and stopped advertising two years ago. There have been more request for hypnosis sessions since I closed my office.

Why do you want hypnosis?

This is the first question I usually ask when someone contacts me. As I have my pre-hypnosis discussion with each individual, I listen closely to what they are saying. You see, if I hear phrases like, “My spouse wants me to stop smoking, chewing tobacco” or … whatever the reason is I decline to do a hypnosis session. Why? Well, if they are only doing hypnosis to get their significant other off their back, it’s not going to work.

It doesn’t work because you’re telling yourself, “I don’t want to quit.” You’re listening to yourself. However, when I hear someone say, “I’m just ready to stop. I don’t like the process I have to go through to support this habit.”

That’s what I heard with the client in today’s session. He’s just tired of the whole process. Think about it. If you smoke or chew, you have to plan when you can make the time to do it. You have to plan to buy the product, then there’s the cost. If you work, there are only designated times you can take your smoke break. If you chew tobacco, you have to make sure you have a container to spit in. Then you have to have a way to dispose of the by-product. Think about what are you going to do with the spit, the tobacco wad, how do you dispose of it. It’s hard to find a way to dispose of the after effect. Do you put all the spit and tobacco wad in the trash? It’s not a good idea to flush it down the toilet.

Listening to when the time is right

Timing is everything! When the time is right, it’s right! I’m going to be speaking to a couple of children next week about hypnosis. One is ten and he’s interested in learning about it. I’m not sure how old his sister is. I love working with children. So, I’m looking forward to talking with them before I do a session for mom. No, she doesn’t want to let them watch the process. She has an issue she wants to work on and the children don’t need to know about it. Therefore, I will do a very short session with them to walk them through the process.

Who knows? Maybe, hypnotist in training.

Summary

Remember, I’ve told you before that hypnosis is a good tool to have in your tool bag. So, listen to yourself. When the time is right and you are listening to yourself, find a hypnotist in your area to help you reach your goals.

July 18, 2021

Unresolved Grief by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I learned long ago, to tell people in my life how I feel about them. Therefore, I tell someone when I appreciate what they do for me. When I feel love for a dear friend, I tell them.

I worked hospice for a few years. As a nurse, my responsibility to my patient is to keep them comfortable and to help them express their true feelings about their impending death. I encouraged each patient to tell their loved ones how much that person means to them. However, it’s not always an easy conversation to tell someone good-bye.

Saying Good-bye

Often times, we don’t have the opportunity to tell our loved one good-bye. Death comes suddenly and things are left unsaid. When this happens, we have unresolved grief. The, “I wish I had said”, “I wish I had done”, “What if they didn’t know” is a strain on the one left behind. The toll affects the survivor’s health.

These thoughts keep coming to the forefront of your mind. In other words, the regret is never resolved. It’s hard to move forward in life. You are stuck and can’t get out of this loop.

Recently, I did hypnosis on a very sweet woman for unresolved grief. In addition, her life is in turmoil. She is having problems remembering things that she needs to do her job successfully. Similarly, she’s having problems navigating through day to day living.

Hypnosis for grief

During this session, I learned her intuition told her to go home. She did go home following this strong feeling she had. Walking into her apartment, she heard the shower running. She went to the bathroom finding her spouse of twenty-three years laying on the floor. Her first reaction was he had felt faint and laid down on the floor. However, she soon realized that he was gone.

Most importantly, the main issue is that they had been having problems in the relationship. However, they decided that they would work through any issues hindering them from having a supportive union.

Her significant other has been dead for three years now. She is not able to get past the consistent grief. Above all, she has no joy in life. Her life is held hostage from this depression.

As she sat down, this lovely woman told me, “You are my last hope. I’ve tried everything to work through this pain.”

The sadness and pain in her eyes told me she is not able to enjoy life. In the pre-hypnosis interview I gathered the information I need to formulate a plan to help her out of this loop of pain.

How hypnosis helped her resolve grief

This woman is easily regressed into a deep state of relaxation. I use regression techniques to put her back into the moment she realized he was gone. I find regression is a valuable tool to use in many different situations.

Durning the session, she is able to tell her loved one the things she wished she had been able to say. As she talked to her spouse, I see the strained look leaving her face. I see her smile as she listens to what he is telling her.

When the session is over, she tells me that she finally feels that the healing process can start. In addition, this sweet woman is a Reiki practitioner. She now feels that she can use her skills to help in her own healing process.

Summary

Hypnosis is a valuable tool to use when you can’t move forward. If you are not able to move ahead in life after losing a loved one, then you may want to consider hypnosis. I receive referrals from mental health therapist when they have a client who is stuck and not able to move forward in their sessions.

Hypnosis is used along with other modalities in the health care field. I see miracles often when clients come in for a session. The pain is no longer an issue. They have a new lease on life. This is rewarding for me to see the change in my clients after a hypnosis session.

Life is not about how many breathes we take. It’s about the moments that take our breath away. The moments of awesome love and joy.

If you want to experience hypnosis contact The National Guild of Hypnotist at https://ngh.net for the name of a hypnotist near you.

March 6, 2021

Anxiety is Learned by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D

People think anxiety is hereditary. It’s not. Anxiety is learned. But, my mother or father have anxiety and I inherited from them! No, you learned it from them.

Anxiety

Anxiety is defined as: a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.

However, I hear you say, “Science says anxiety is genetic.” Let’s look at the facts.

In addition, to my theory that anxiety is learned, science admits they are not 100% sure what causes the disorder. We know worry is a feeling and not a mental illness. Apprehension is caused by the way we learn to live in unhealthy ways. Learned fear makes us react more fearful and stressful in certain situations.

Genes are turned on and off by the way we behave and react to our environment. Therefore, our destiny is not carved in stone. It’s true our behavior greatly influences what our genes do in certain situations, but our genes do not control our feelings.

Yes, studies show the risk of anxiety tends to run in families. But, the role of genetic influence versus the influence of the family environment remains unclear.

Which came first? The egg or the chicken?

Having said this, the same is said with anxiety. We know the brain is rewired and new circuit pathways are forged when new information is being learned. In addition, to the new electrical pathways being built, our genes react to daily stressors.

Each system of the body is connected to the other. Therefore, when one system becomes out of balance, the rest of the body is out of balance. We are a well oiled living machine. One system joined to the other and all working in tandem.

Hypnosis and Anxiety

I do hypnosis on individuals struggling with fear. I educate my clients on the background of apprehension. During the interview with my client, we talk about the concerns they have and when the fears began.

My client is regressed back to the root cause of their struggle with being anxious. More times than not, the root cause is not when or even what they think caused the uneasy feelings.

Often times, my clients are surprised to learn what actually triggered the edginess in their life. The main theme I see with my customers is lack of self-esteem. Low self-esteem and not being confident in one’s abilities to navigate through life is a recurring theme.

I’m sneaky, as are all hypnotist. However, I know how to sneak around the gatekeeper of the mind. The mind does not like change. It will do everything in its power to stay in the rut it creates.

Through hypnosis, I give the client the tools they need to break free of worry. Now with the new found skills, they are therefore able to move forward with confidence. Hence, there is a newfound freedom.

In conclusion

My reward in working with clients is seeing the freedom they have acquired after a hypnosis session. Clients come to the session stressed and anxious. I see them leave relaxed and confident.

There is no better reward for me than to see a client leave after a session with a smile on their face.

Hypnosis is a safe tool for you to use in gaining the freedom you need to live a healthier life. Many of my clients work in the medical field. Once these clients have experienced hypnosis, they refer patients to me. Hypnosis is a good tool to use along with mental health counseling. Counselors refer their patients to me when there is an impasse in counseling sessions.

Give yourself permission to use hypnosis as a tool for good mental and physical health.

For more information on anxiety and other emotional issues order my book Guilty Prayers. See the section on announcements for details on the book. You can order it from Amazon, Kindle, or any book distributor.

December 5, 2020

Output the Input by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

The year 2020 is a difficult year. Some may say that it’s been traumatic. In other words, 2020 is dumping a lot of input into our brains! Doubt, anxiety, uncertainty, and instability into ones belief system, you’ve been kicked to the curb! Turned upside down and shaken like a stuffed toy in a dogs mouth!

What do you mean by input?

Global events are just that! Global! The whole world is dealing with the same life changing event, COVID-19. This article is not another story about the virus, rather, it’s about what the virus is doing to the peoples of the Earth.

Our brain is like a dry sponge. It soaks up information and we’re not aware that this is happening. At least not until physical symptoms began to emerge. Be careful of what you expose yourself too. Protect your mind from the hysteria that is currently being circulated by the mainstream news media. Remember, they are more interested in the number of viewers and ratings than in reporting the truth. (That’s another story for another time.) Back to the topic, input.

How the brain uses information

Stage 1: Input

The brain is exposed to a stimuli, the information is then analyzed and evaluated. For example, you are exposed to new information, at that time you determine whether it’s worth remembering. However, the brain is sometimes stimulated to information that the subconscious decides to hold on to. You’re not even aware how powerful this seemingly insignificant piece of information was on your thought process.

Stage 2: Storage

Our brain stores the information for later use. Next, the data is added to our mental framework and is processed for storage. If the information is not reinforced, the brain may simply forget it over time. However, with the constant exposure to the pandemic, the information is reinforced over and over again.

Stage 3: Output

Your brain decides what it’s going to do with the information. Then it determines how it will react to the stimulus. For example, after listening to the latest update on the virus, you decide how you will use the information.

How to output the input

Pay attention to what you’re thinking! You’ve seen my articles on this topic. You become what you think about!

Do you know that sleep can help you throw out the trash from your mind? You know those nights when you can’t fall asleep? This is an example of your mind being filled to over capacity.

Your brain washes itself when you sleep. Your brain cells begin to shrink by up to 60% during sleep. This process is to clear out space so your glial cells can remove the waste and clean the synapses. (Glial – the connective tissue of the nervous system, consisting of several different types of cells associated with neurons.)

Therefore, you actually have some control over what your brain decides to delete while you sleep. The synaptic connections you don’t use are the ones that get slated for deleting. The ones you do use are the ones that are stored. So, pay attention to what you’re thinking!

Help is here

Stress causes physical symptoms. You know the signs. If not, I’ve written articles on stress you can read. If, you find that you’re having difficulty in releasing unwanted thoughts, seek out help.

Just let it go, is not helpful to hear. In other words, take action! A fast and reliable action to take is hypnosis. Some people find hypnosis scary and don’t want to try it. What are other options?

Talk therapy is helpful for most people. This is usually short-term and the results can be quite good.

Find a support group. During this time of quarantine, it may be difficult. Online support groups can be found. Skype and zoom are being used more now than in the past in the mental health arena.

Take a second look at hypnosis

Why are you reluctant to try hypnosis? Is it because you really don’t understand how it works? You are an active participant in the process. Really, you are. You are aware of what’s going on throughout the entire session.

Being in a relaxed state is great! It’s through being relaxed that the work is done. I can’t make a client do something that they normally wouldn’t do. Certainly, you will not tell a deep dark secret, unless you want to. The control is yours at all times.

I work with my clients through this relaxed state. The back door to the subconscious is used.  Sneaky I know! But, it’s very effective. During this relaxed state of being, you are able to remember things that are the root cause to your current issues.

Anyone who wants to be hypnotized can be. Hypnosis with a skilled hypnotist is very effective. You are released from the stressors in your life. In other words, you have an insight in a short time. With this insight, you resolve the stressors causing you discomfort.

Choosing a skilled hypnotist

Look online for hypnotist in your area. Interview the hypnotist before you make an appointment. You feel at ease when talking with this person. You make a connection with them. It’s then you know you’ve found the skilled professional to work with on your issues.

If there are no listings for hypnotist in your area, you can contact the National Guild of Hypnotist for help in locating a professional.

National Guild of Hypnotists · Phone
3 Lesa Dr, Merrimack, NH 03054
(603) 429-9438
Tips to remember
  1. A professional hypnotist will take the time to talk with you before you schedule an appointment.
  2. If the hypnotist wants to schedule a session on the phone, run! Hypnosis sessions on the phone are not ethical, especially if you have never been hypnotized.
  3. Listen to your “gut” about the hypnotist you’re interviewing. Sometimes people just don’t connect. That doesn’t mean that there’s a problem with the professional. It just means that you need to continue to look for a professional you feel comfortable with.
  4. Realize that you may have to travel to see a hypnotist. I’ve had clients come from out of state to see me.
  5. Be prepared for one of the most rewarding experiences you will have. Your first session will be an eye-opener for you!
In conclusion

Now is the time to dump the input that 2020 has loaded into your brain. Start 2021 in a better state of mind. Remember, output the input that’s not needed!

March 23, 2020

The Mind is a Powerful Thing! by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Henry knew from an early age that he would die at the age of 50. However, there were no indications that Henry would die at an early age. Henry has perfect health from birth never being sick a day in his life. He was physically strong and looked like a weight builder. Henry is blessed with intelligence and has a prestigious job. Henry’s doctor could not convince him that there is a reason to believe he would die young.

Knowing he would die at the age of 50, restricted Henry in living a full life. Yes, he has an abundance of friends, but Henry never married. He opted out of living life to the fullest because of his belief in his life expectancy. Because of this, Henry was a lonely man. He longed for a wife and children, but he didn’t want to put a family through the grief of loosing a husband and father.

When Henry turned 49 years old, his attention turned to what he wanted to experience the last year of his life. Despite his doctor’s efforts in trying to convince him of his excellent, Henry began to plan for his funeral.

Henry turned 50.

Ending #1

The night before Henry’s 50th birthday, he wrote out his instructions on how he wanted his funeral to be conducted. Henry then joined his friends for a big celebration. Everyone enjoyed the evening. Laughter, good food, friends singing… the evening is the best evening Henry has ever had.

The next morning Henry is found dead. It’s his 50th birthday.

The thoughts you dwell on are your reality. Henry willed himself to death with his belief that he would die at 50.

Ending #2

The night before Henry’s 50th birthday, he wrote out his instructions on how he wanted his funeral to be conducted. Henry then joined his friends for a big celebration. Everyone enjoyed the evening. Laughter, good food, friends singing… the evening is the best evening Henry has ever had.

The sun rose the next morning and to Henry’s surprise, he woke up on his 50th birthday! Henry live for another six months before he died.

Beware of what you think!

In my hypnosis practice, I see clients whose thoughts have manifested in their lives. The thoughts you dwell on are the ones you see directing the outcomes in your existence. Many of my clients have set themselves up for failure by the beliefs they hold on to. These ideas are not based on facts, but on internal perceptions that have no foundation.

Beware of what you wish for is a warning for us to pay attention to what we contemplate. What are your thoughts focused on? Do you realized how powerful your mind is?

Change your thoughts, change your life!

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