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March 22, 2020 Hypnosis

Now Is The Time To Heal! by Janet Westley, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a theme I’m seeing a lot in my hypnosis practice. PTSD is not just seen with our military, police officers, or first responders and medical staff. Trauma is seen throughout society.

PTSD in Society

Children suffer from PTSD brought on by circumstances in the family, bullying by peers, fear brought on by feelings of lack of support and low self-esteem. It’s heart breaking to see these little ones dealing with such a heavy burden.

Women suffer from PTSD more often than is realized. Even with all the advances women have made in gaining rights and being recognized, there’s still room for improvement. I have clients I’m seeing for abduction and being held hostage and raped to one woman discovering she is being poisoned by her husband.

In reality, traumatic events are seen in every aspect of society.

Hypnosis as a tool for recovery

As I said earlier, I’m seeing more women coming to my hypnosis practice with PTSD. Often times, it’s disguised as depression or low self-esteem. Once my client is in a relaxed state of focused attention, they are able to get in touch with the root cause of their depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and insomnia.

I had a woman who had been in treatment for depression for over 20 years book an appointment with me for hypnosis in hopes of getting relief. She has been suicidal at times throughout her life and had even attempted suicide once in her twenties. On my insistence, the mental health care provider was aware of her hypnosis session with me.

(Note, I don’t routinely conduct a hypnosis session on an individual who is suicidal. Their health care provider must be aware of this session. Hypnosis does help with suicidal thoughts and is safe. However, I insist that the health care provider be aware of what’s going on. I also insist that the client stay on their current medications and keep their scheduled appointments with their mental health provider. The mental health provider is the one who will make any adjustments in the medication protocol.)

I regressed this lovely woman back to the time when her depression started. She regressed back to a time in her life when a thoughtless statement was made by her father. He told her that she just needed to make sure she wore a tight sweater to get ahead in life.

This revelation, is the release she needed to move forward in life. Now that the root cause is determined, she has made progress with her psychiatrist.

Current Client Needs

Currently, I am seeing negative “self-talk” as being a contributor to people not being able to move froward. Through hypnosis, I address the negative self-talk. Post hypnosis, we talk about the negative self-talk and showing compassion to one’s self.

I am blessed to literally see a difference in my clients as they leave my office. Hypnosis is a viable tool to help people identify the blocks in their lives. Hypnotic therapy is a major tool to be used in mental and emotional health. While hypnosis is an important tool in helping people over come addictions such as smoking and drug abuse, it’s vital for mental health as well.

Summary

Hypnosis is a powerful tool! Through hypnosis, you are able to break free of the bondage that is holding you back.

Things to Note

Look for a hypnotist who is certified in hypnosis. Learning hypnosis is not a two hour workshop. To be certified in hypnosis, one has to have 100 hours training under a certified instructor in hypnotic techniques. Then, you have to pass a written exam as well as demonstrate your skills before certification is grated. I received my certificate through an instructor certified by the National Guild of Hypnotist. I have been doing hypnosis since 2006.

Next, if someone tells you they can do hypnosis over the phone or Skype, RUN! To do hypnosis correctly, one has to be in the same room with the hypnotist. There is certain testing I do with my clients to see how deeply in trance they are. You can’t do the proper testing over the phone! Also, one has to be present during emotional moments in a session.

Hypnosis is hard work for the client at times. Emotions can run high as the client sees the truth behind the trauma. While working through the trauma is hard work, the rewards are abundant!

I receive referrals from mental health care providers as well as primary care physicians. I have worked in the health care field as a nurse for many years. My Ph.D. in Natural Health is also a benefit for my clients.

Other resources

My book, Guilty Prayers by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D. addresses several mental health issues. The book has stories from real people and tells what happens when emotional issues such as anger get out of control. You are given tools to help you work through these emotions.

Guilty Prayers by Janet Lynas can be purchased though Amazon, Kindle, Barnes & Noble, or any book retail store.

January 18, 2020 Hypnosis

Who are you? by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Do you know who you are? Are you sure? Where did your definition of yourself come from?

Who defined you?

Your initial self image came from your parents. They told you who you are from birth. The programing started even before the moment of birth. Then your programing came from teachers, religious leaders and other people who ebbed in and out of your life. As a teenager, your friends had a big influence on the self-identity.

How do you define who you are?

First you have to dump all the programing that was installed into you from birth. What?! Yes, you have to throw away the beliefs that others put into your mind. Next, you have to open your mind and look at who you want to be. Easy? No. Look outside of the box that was built around you. See beyond the limits you have set in place. Move past what has been taught to you.

What are you preparing for?

Look deep inside of yourself and see who you want to be. What if I don’t know what I want to become? How do I know what I really want? Becoming an individual is not that hard.

Sit quietly and listen to the little voice deep inside of you. This will include listening to your shadow side. What is the shadow side? The shadow side is what many refer to as the negative side that we deem as being bad or evil. However, the shadow side is not negative or evil. It makes us whole.

What if I can’t access my desires?

Hypnosis can help one connect within, to explore the possibilities available to each of us. Hypnosis can help us bypass the gatekeeper so to speak. While working through the subconscious, we are able to connect with ourself to expand our knowledge within our mind.

Hypnosis is a good tool to help you move outside of the programing that was instilled into you from birth. Until you define who you are how can you know who you really are? Seek out a certified hypnotist to help you seek the knowledge of self identity.

January 1, 2020 Hypnosis

Are you using GPS? by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Today is January 1, 2020. Many people are making new year resolutions today. Are you one who likes to make resolutions for the new year?

Challenge for 2020

I challenge you to move away from the typical new year goal setting. Most of the declarations we make are superficial. Why bother with those? I challenge you to get to know yourself this year and in the new decade we have just entered. How do you do that? Why bother?

We’re on a journey in life. When one starts out on a journey, especially one that has not been traveled before, we often depend on GPS to show us the way. Have you turned on your internal GPS? How does one do that?

“I’m old,” you say, “Why bother at this point in my life?” Well, you’re still alive aren’t you? It’s never too late to take a look at where you’ve been and where you would like to go.

I wish I had had the opportunity to get to know myself and what my life journey was early in life. Instead, I had to go through the “school of hard knocks”. Had I been able to go within and explore what my life purpose was, at an early age, I would have been lightyears ahead in life.

Just because one is mature in age, doesn’t mean you can’t review where you’ve been and where you would like to go from this point forward. It’s never too late to turn on your personal GPS.

Turning on your GPS

Hypnosis is a great tool to use to see your roadmap. Hypnosis, so to speak, is your internal GPS. If you are a young person, hypnosis can help you find your life’s purpose. Hypnosis can show you what direction you want to proceed. Deep within you know what your life goals are, hypnosis can unlock the answers for you.

Imagine how great it will be to know what your purpose in life is without constantly asking, “Who am I? What am I supposed to do in life?” Hypnosis will help you bypass the frustration of always seeking the answers.

Deep within our subconscious mind, we have the answers to the questions we’re constantly asking ourselves. It doesn’t matter what age you are, it’s time to learn what your path in life is. Even if you’ve spent your adult life on one path, what are you going to do with your life in the next phase? It’s ok to change paths!

Are you nearing the end of your life cycle? It’s important to be able to clearly see the contribution you make in this life time. Sometimes, we can’t see the trees for the forest. Through hypnosis you will be able to remember many lessons you experienced in life.

What now?

I hope you will accept this challenge. Live your life with purpose. Know who you are. Know where you’ve been and where you going!

December 26, 2019 Hypnosis Nutrition

Clearing Out The Gunk From Your Diet By Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Americans are lazy when it comes to our health! We want someone else to be in charge and make the decisions for us. That way if the outcomes are not what we want, we can blame the healthcare provider. We don’t want to take responsibility for ourselves. Let someone else make the decisions!

Clearing out the gunk

As this article is being written, the end of a decade is rapidly approaching. People make New Year’s Resolutions only to see them fall to the wayside in just a few weeks. One of the most popular resolutions is, “I’m going to lose weight this year and keep it off.”

You look for the latest fad diet promising that you will lose 20 pounds the first month. We want fast results with little effort! Most diets are restrictive and don’t help you change behavior. Behavior modification is the key for success.

How do you clear out the gunk from your diet? Have you decided how much weight you want to lose? Are you pumped up and ready to get started?

What is the gunk that you need to clear out of your diet? How much junk food are you eating? You know, cookies, pies, cakes, soda pop, fast foods, and the list continues. I don’t need to tell you what junk foods are, you already know.

What are the steps to behavior modification?

The very first step is to examine your desire and reason to lose weight. Do you want to lose weight for yourself, or is someone nagging you? Have you set a realistic weight loss goal? Is there a plan in place to help you succeed? Is your support system in place?

The second step is to implement the plan. How you go about losing weight will determine your success. If you have been on the diet rollercoaster ride, you will need some tools to help you. A life coach or talking with a counselor is one tool to add to your tool belt.

Hypnosis and weight loss

Hypnosis is a proven tool to use. With hypnosis, you are able to get past the gatekeeper, the subconscious mind. With hypnosis, you will be able to get to the ‘root cause’ of your overeating. Did you know that the seeds for our overeating is often planted in our childhood? Clean your plate, don’t waste the food. Or if you grew up in an environment where food was scarce, you may be trying to fill up your stomach because you don’t know when or where your next meal will come from. It doesn’t matter that you are no longer in the environment of lack of food. Hypnosis will help you learn to listen to what your body is telling you.

More often than not, people overeat to try to fill an emotional void. We feel empty on the inside and it’s not a good feeling. We want the emptiness to go away. Through hypnosis, you can explore where this feeling of lack is coming from.

Step three is to take the first step towards being free of the stress that extra weight has caused in your life. You have the tools you need, all you have to do is take the first step. Stay in the moment and don’t stress about how much weight you are losing or not losing.

Take that first step! Move forward!

Don’t try to make big drastic changes from the start. Take small steps. Once you have made up your mind that you are making these changes for yourself, you’re ready to get started.

Enlist the help you need from your tool belt. Contact a life coach or seek out a counselor who specializes in eating disorders. Schedule an appointment with a certified hypnotist.

Get to the ‘root cause’ of your overeating! Knowledge is the key to success!

Forget about going on a diet!

When you say, “I’m going on a diet”, it indicates that you will be going “off” the diet at some point in time.

Instead begin to clear out the gunk in your diet. Take small steps in this process. When you go to the grocery store, stay away from the store shelves with the potato chips. Bypass the cookie isle. Run away from the diet drinks! They have been proven to add weight to your body.

Don’t try to clear out all the junk food at the same time. Eliminate one junk food, then after a week eliminate another one. You’re not in a sprint, but you are in a marathon. You didn’t put the weight on over night. You’re not going to lose it overnight.

It’s not about how much weight to lose. It’s about being healthy.

Most of us don’t set realistic weight loss goals. It’s not about a number, but about health. As you explore the causes of your extra poundage and change behavior traits, you are well on your way to success. Your body will guide you on the path of being healthy.

Take that first step! The first step on a journey is the most important!

September 19, 2019 Hypnosis

What do you fear? Failure or Success? by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

We work hard to avoid failure, especially when it comes to our job. One thinks about failure often. If I try out this new idea and I fail, I will look like a fool. I will not proceed with this new idea because I’m afraid I will fail and lose my job.

Self-Sabotage

Why is it that we decide we will fail before we even try out the new idea? What about the fear of failure in romance? People run from romance like a wild fire is behind them! A broke heart is something that we can’t bear to think about, much less endure the pain that comes with failure and rejection. What is the self-talk that you utter beneath your breath to yourself? I’m not good enough. That person couldn’t possibly love me, they are out of my class.

I AM not… smart enough, strong enough, pretty enough, worthy? Is this what you are telling yourself? Why are you shooting yourself in the foot before you even take the first step?

Fear of Success

I think people are more afraid of success than they are of failure. After all, if one fails they can make up hundreds of excuses as to why they failed. But, if one is successful that will take a certain amount of change. You have to adapt to the new life style that comes with success and to the new responsibilities that come with it.

With success comes adapting to the expectations that others will have of you. Success brings us out from the shadows into the spot light. We tell ourselves how great life will be when success finally become a reality.

“No! I’m not afraid of success! I have struggled all my life trying to be successful!”

Really? What to rethink that last statement?

If an individual is not afraid of success, then why is it that we won’t move forward to improve our lives when the right tools for abundance are given to us? What is the reason you will not take that first step to move forward in life? Change is scary, it takes us out of our comfort zone. The subconscious mind does not want change, it wants what it knows!

Take your health for example. Your thirty pounds overweight, your blood pressure is too high, and you hurt! To be triumphant will take some effort and to be honest, most of us are just too lazy to actually use the tools we are given to move forward. We don’t want to do the work that goes with using theses tools to dig ourselves out of the rut we are in.

Hypnosis and the Subconscious Mind

Hypnosis is one of the tools in our shed of self-improvement. What will it take to get you to pick up the phone and call a hypnotist? After all, one only has to sit in a chair and relax and listen the hypnotist for an hour or so as the session is conducted. How hard is that to do? What excuses are you using to prevent improving you life? Money? Really? Do you want to go there? After all, you have the money to buy the junk food that is destroying your life. The money is there when the urge comes to get that new tattoo.

When will you decide to make a positive investment in yourself? Will it take a life threatening event to get you to move forward?

I think people are more afraid of success than they are of failure. After all with success, comes change and people are more afraid of change.

So, what is your choice?

September 10, 2019 Hypnosis

PTSD and hypnosis by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

When I started my hypnosis practice in 2006, I thought that most of my clients would be for smoking cessation or weight loss. You know the common things most people complain about. Life has a way of taking one down unexpected roads.

Women and PTSD

I see women who are abused either physically or mentally in my hypnosis practice. Recently, women with PTSD are the bulk of my practice. One woman’s husband was poisonings her by putting a product that dissolves the sticky residue from price tags in her food. He took out an insurance policy for a large sum of money and forgot to fill out all the paperwork. The insurance company called her to ask her about the unanswered questions. This inquiry from the insurance company put her on the trail to discovering that she was being poisoned. Her doctor was alerted and was able to run the proper test to identify what was going on. Had it not been for the insurance company calling her, the doctor would have continued to be baffled with her symptoms.

Women and memory loss with PTSD

I see battered woman and this is heartbreaking, but in recent months I am seeing more unusual situations with PTSD in women. I’m working with a woman who was kidnapped when she was in her 20s. One of the date rape drugs was put in her soda pop while she was playing a game of pool. The next thing she knew, she woke up in a strange place and had no idea where she was or how she got there. She was held hostage for a year before she was able to get away.

She traveled from another state by bus to see me for hypnosis. For over 20 years she has struggled with trying to remember events during that time frame. I regressed her back to the event to help her remember what she thought she had blocked from her memory. She was drugged during her capture on a regular bases. As it turns out, she does remember what happened to her. Those times that she thought she could not remember are times of being drugged.

What’s next in her recovery?

I will conduct a follow up session with her soon. In this session, I will help her come to terms with what happened to her. I will help her reconnect with her younger self and she will begin to heal herself. In this session, she will find the peace of mind that she so desperately needs. I’m trained in regression hypnosis and hold an advanced certification in regression therapy.

It’s always amazing to me to watch each individual as they began to heal during the hypnosis session. The healing unfolds as I am observing the client work through the process. I expect to see this woman have the resolution she needs to put this trauma behind her once and for all. Hypnosis is a valuable tool in the recovery of PTSD. I’m privileged to have individuals to trust me to help them through this journey in their recovery.

July 28, 2019 Hypnosis

Hypnosis for Anxiety with a Teenager by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I find it disturbing to see what appears to be an epidemic of anxiety rearing its ugly head in our society. I am even more troubled by the increase in children suffering from anxiousness.

Hypnosis and Teenagers

Recently I had a beautiful 15 year old girl come to me for a session of hypnosis for anxiety, PTSD, stress, and Trichotillomania. What in the world is Trichotillomania?! The short definition is one who pulls out their own hair, eyelashes or eyebrows while experiencing stressful situations.

This young woman is skilled at soccer. She’s skilled enough to play on the soccer team for Harvard or Yell. She’s looking at both colleges for a soccer scholarship. While she was in the seventh grade she began to experience physical symptoms of sever fatigue and wanted to sleep a lot. Her coach at the time told her how worthless she was as a soccer player and she would not amount to anything. As it turned this young athlete was severely anemic. Thus the PTSD being brought on by a coach hounding this teenager and telling her how she would never amount to anything.

The Hypnosis Session

During the hypnosis session, we addressed all the issues this brave young athlete wanted to address with success. We also took a look at her “path” in life that she wanted to know about. This teenage girl wants to know what will happen at all times. Many of us feel that way. The fear of the unknown on our life’s journey often causes anxiety for many people. As I guided her along the path, we stopped at each curve and turn in the road for her to examine what was around each corner. As she rounded each corner, she saw an obstacle in the road. She was able to overcome each challenge on the path to her surprise.

Post Hypnosis Discussion

After the session, this brave young woman felt more in control of her confidence and felt more calm and relaxed. The challenges she saw along her path are in reality the battles she faces on a daily bases. She learned that she can indeed face the trials and tribulations that we all face and do it with confidence.

The Gift

The tools given to this determined teenager during her hypnosis session are tools that she will be able to use for the rest of her life. Imagine the confirmation she now has in her ability to handle what surprises might come her way. We talked about the fact that there is no way one can always know what will happen in our life. If we knew everything that was going to happen before it happened, life would become very boring. We would miss out on the pleasures of discovering new delightful events in life.

This bright teenager now has what she needs to face life’s unknown’s and she has the confidence in knowing that she has the tools she needs to succeed in life.

May 31, 2019 Hypnosis

The Road Least Taken by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Clients come to me from all walks of life and all ages for hypnosis. Their reasons mostly boils down to changes in behavior. Some want to lose weight, others want to stop tobacco use, others want to deal with emotional distress.

My favorite induction to use with my clients once they are in a deep trace is “The Fork in the Road”. One path leads upward and is a bit of a challenge, but the rewards are huge! The other path leads downward doing the same thing and has no resistance.

The Path Known

It’s interesting that we say we want change, but in reality we want to stay on the same path that we are currently on.

“So, how’s that working for you?” I worked the mental health unit at one of the VA outpatient clinics and occasionally the inpatient unit. This question was most often used by the staff when a patient rejected any suggestions for self improvement.

What’s the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. The subconscious mind will resist change. It’s the gatekeeper and will do just about anything to stay on the path known. I have to be sneaky to get around the gatekeeper. Fortunately I know how to do that.

Staying on the known path takes no effort. I take my clients on a journey while they are in a trance. One year down this path of non-resistance, there is a reflecting pond on the side of the path. Take a look at your reflection in the pool. What do you see after one year of continuing the same behavior? As the walk is resumed and five years down this path, we come to a crystal clear lake. Take a good look and what do you see after five years of doing the same things over and over? What do you see after ten years of the same behavior?

It is rather depressing staying on the known path.

Travel the Unknown Path to Change

Once I have taken my client down the path of least resistance, I return them to the fork in the road. This path leads up and is a challenge to climb. However, the rewards are gratifying and satisfying.

I guide my client up the path for change to one year of experiencing this positive change. Once again I have the individual stop by a reflecting pool and look at the results of having changed their approach to their issue. It feels so good to see the positive results. Five years out and the results are even more apparent. The client is feeling so good about themself. Ten years out, oh my goodness! Change is wonderful! The client is freed from the stress and destruction of the behavior that was needing change.

Why do we resist change?

Recently I was walking the trails at Garvan Woodland Gardens close to my house. I often feel the need to be in nature so I can recharge my batteries so to speak. On this particular walk, I saw a path that I had not noticed in the past. Being the curious or nosy individual that I am, I quickly took this new path. It was a challenging path. Uphill and very few markers on the path to let me know I was going in the right direction. At one point, I began to wonder if I had gotten off the path. But, being more curious than cautious, I treaded forward and upward.

As I was walking on this path, I found myself walking next to the lake. This particular lake I am really comfortable with because I grew up water skiing and swimming on it. But, I had not seen this part of the lake before. It was wild and untouched by mankind’s invasions. This bay was calm, nurturing and tranquil. I felt the tension inside of me relaxing. As I began to open myself to new possibilities, I began to experience excitement welling up within me. An excitement I had not felt for sometime.

Suddenly, the path turned into a tree lined dirt road shaded by the branches of the trees reaching out over the road. I soon learned that this road led to the proposed homesite of the Garvan family who had donated the land for development of the gardens. This dream of theirs was never realized.

I stopped for a moment and looked at my surroundings. I saw all the new possibilities. Beauty and positive growth stretched out before me. All I had to do was continue on this unknown path.

I began to reflect on my own resistance to changes in my life. Why am I resisting change? I know the changes are changes for growth and in my highest good. It was on this walk, on this unknown trail, that I decided to walk the unknown paths in life. I want to see what life has to offer me. I know walking the unknown path can be a bit of a challenge at times, but oh my, the rewards are boundless!

January 9, 2019 Hypnosis

Hypnosis As A Tool For Depression by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

I recently conducted a workshop on hypnosis for a community event for women. During the workshop, I demonstrated how hypnosis works by doing a group session. What better way to learn about hypnosis than to experience it? Right? There was an overflow of participants and a few had to sit on the floor. My block of time for my talk had been shortened, so, instead of having 30 minutes to present my demonstration, I now had 20 minutes. Life throws you a curve ball at times.

The Session

During the session, I made a suggestion that the individual’s right arm would feel so light that it would float up as if a ballon was tied to it. I was testing to see how relaxed and focused these women were. This test also let me know how deep they were in the hypnotic trance. I began to see several arms floating up as I looked around the room. The session was receive with great enthusiasm from the group of women.

Post Conference

After the conference, I received a request from one of the women for a hypnosis session for depression, severe depression. Of course you know my first question: Are you seeing a psychiatrist? Are you seeing a therapist? Are you taking your medication as prescribed? She stated that she was and this has been a 20 year struggle.

Evidenced-Based Practice

Hypnotherapy in itself is not a cure all for every issue. I would never tell anyone that hypnosis will cure them of their problem. However, hypnosis is a powerful tool to be used along with other modalities for severe depression.

Hypnotherapy appears to work best when used with other forms of treatment, says Steve G. Kopp, a licensed mental health counselor and marriage and family therapist. It can help reduce a patient’s resistance to other more traditional treatments.

“It seems most effective complementing cognitive behavioral therapy or interpersonal psychotherapy,” Kopp says

According to the Mayo Clinic:

Hypnotherapy can be an effective method for coping with stress and anxiety. In particular, hypnosis can reduce stress and anxiety before a medical procedure, such as a breast biopsy.

Hypnosis has been studied for other conditions, including:

Pain control. Hypnosis may help with pain due to burns, cancer, childbirth, irritable bowel syndrome, fibromyalgia, temporomandibular joint problems, dental procedures and headaches.
Hot flashes. Hypnosis may relieve symptoms of hot flashes associated with menopause.
Behavior change. Hypnosis has been used with some success in the treatment of insomnia, bed-wetting, smoking, and overeating.
Cancer treatment side effects. Hypnosis has been used to ease side effects related to chemotherapy or radiation treatment.
Mental health conditions. Hypnosis may help treat symptoms of anxiety, phobias and post-traumatic stress.

There have been numerous studies conducted on hypnosis that show positive results for the clients who choose to add hypnosis to their tool bag.

Evidence-based practice definition:

Evidence-based practice is an interdisciplinary approach to clinical practice that has been gaining ground following its formal introduction in 1992. It started in medicine as evidence-based medicine and spread to allied health professions, educational fields, and others. EBP is traditionally defined in terms of a “three legged stool” integrating three basic principles: the best available research evidence bearing on whether and why a treatment works, clinical expertise to rapidly identify each patient’s unique health state and diagnosis, their individual risks and benefits of potential interventions, and client preferences and values.

Hypnosis In Action

Through hypnosis, one is given a powerful tool. This tool helps the individual to align the conscious and subconscious minds. Once this alignment is accomplished, the individual is able to reach a new hight in treatment.

How did my client do with hypnosis? My client was able to regress back to the first time she felt depressed. By identifying the root cause of her depression, she will be able to work with her medical team to move forward. The last time I heard from my client, she was making progress and feeling better.

October 11, 2018 Hypnosis

Bullying by Janet Lynas, Ph.D., N.H.D.

Bullying. What was the first thing that popped into your mind when you read the word bullying? Childhood bullying is your first thought. Certainly, one of the many campaigns seen on TV to stop bullying is foremost in your mind. Did you think about the bullying that goes on in adult life?

Adult intimidation is a topic that is not openly recognized. In my hypnosis practice, clients are seeking emotional release from feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Harassment is a root causes of depression, anxiety, stomachache, and many other physical symptoms.

Definition of Bullying

The definition of bullying is when an individual or a group of people with more power, repeatedly and intentionally cause hurt or harm to another person or group of people who feel helpless to respond. Bullying can continue over time. It’s often hidden from adults, and will probably continue if no action is taken.

Did you notice that the definition is really referring to children?

Information on adults badgered in the workforce is harder to find. More often than not, it’s a supervisor doing the persecution. Certainly, employees feel their work is inadequate. Other times, the individual feels they are invisible and ignored or ostracized.

Reasons for bullies attacking people

The reasons are the same for adult bullies as for child bullies. Oftentimes, a bully experiences low self-esteem. They feel threatened by your talent in the work environment. The individual is attempting to make up for their own inadequates. However, they do not see themselves as bullies. Once I had a supervisor who was a bully. Her words, “I’m just trying to make you a better nurse.” I planned to file a harassment complaint with the Union before something was done by the Director of Nursing.

Actions you can take

When someone is complaining about you, the easiest way to put a stop to it is to say “ok”. What else can they say after that? Stop being the victim. If they are trying to embarrass you, laugh at the joke alone with them. If they keep bringing up past mistakes, tell them that you have moved on and are no longer going to worry about it.

How can hypnosis help with bullying?

In my practice, the client deals with each episode of bullying throughout their lifetime. The fear is identify with each incident. At this point, I have their adult self talk with the child self. The client realizes they survived the pressure. They see their inner strength. The client sees that the underlying fear is an illusion. It now longer has control over them.

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